It helps if you're really, really good looking.
It helps if you're really, really good looking.
My hunchback is actually quite attractive.
It's not that I want to be someone else, PLJ. It's that I want to have the upper-hand in a conversation. Instead of selling myself, I'll make the woman list off why I should be interested in her.
Plus, I'm terrible at judging when to go in for the kiss and all that. I'm too afraid to make a move because I build it all up at once. I need to "escalate" gradually to get to that point so it's not like a big make-it-or-break-it moment.
You're putting to much effort into it, trying to figure out what the other person wants. If you're a kick ass dude, like me, you just need to show up and it all falls into place.
If you have a really cool pet, like a snake or something, that'd help too I reckon. Just have it round your neck in clubs and people will think you're edgy.
This. You'll know how to move in for a kiss or whatever when you talk to more women and have kissed more of them! The more you think about such things, the less confident you'll appear etc. Mostly there's 'that' sort of eye contact between you two that is more like a gaze - i you feel the time is right then either go in for the kill (if the situation suits), or ask for a kiss.Dude your thinking WAY too much about it.
My hunchback is actually quite attractive.
It's not that I want to be someone else, PLJ. It's that I want to have the upper-hand in a conversation. Instead of selling myself, I'll make the woman list off why I should be interested in her.
Plus, I'm terrible at judging when to go in for the kiss and all that. I'm too afraid to make a move because I build it all up at once. I need to "escalate" gradually to get to that point so it's not like a big make-it-or-break-it moment.
This. You'll know how to move in for a kiss or whatever when you talk to more women and have kissed more of them! The more you think about such things, the less confident you'll appear etc. Mostly there's 'that' sort of eye contact between you two that is more like a gaze - i you feel the time is right then either go in for the kill (if the situation suits), or ask for a kiss.
It's been years since I used to do this kind of thing, but these things never change. My (probably useless) tips:
There are two things to remember in this situation - keep them at the front of your mind and you'll go far.
- She probably wants to just as much as you. It's contraints placed on her by society that stop her going for it too easily.
- She wants to talk about herself and feel flattered.
Regarding point 1, remember to keep dropping hints about the excitement such an illicit act as a one night stand can cause. You'll never convince someone to go home with you, but you can remind them how exciting doing such a thing can be. Many believe in suggestion techniques here (I don't) such as "Aren't you a naughty one?" if she says something a little flirty - personally I think suggestion techniques are a little rapey though.
With point 2, it's simple. She wants to be all the things you and I do - interesting, knowledgable, attractive, stylish, etc so make sure she feels that. Ask questions a lot and seem very interested in the answers. Refer to things she's already mentioned in other questions - like in an exam, it shows you're listening. Keep your own answers short - you'll never lose points for being mysterious, but you will for going on about yourself. If she's leaning forward a lot or looking at down, she wants you to notice her tits - notice them without staring. If she leans to one side sticking a hip out, she wants you to notice it - do so. If she plays with her hair she wants eye contact - make it (don't stare).
As for the initial contact stuff, I'll bet there's one thing you do that almost all men all over the world do and it ruins chances - looking away when you get caught looking.
When you're looking at a girl you like and she spots you, it's the most natural thing in the world to look away as if you've been caught - pay attention next time you're out and I bet you do it, everyone does. Instead, keep eye contact for a couple of seconds. Don't stare or look rapey, that's not good. Smile ever so slightly but don't grin - you may end up in prison or an asylum. If she catches you looking at her body still make the eye contact but with a "oh brick you caught me" smile and a little laugh.
You'll usually know from her reaction then whether she's at all interested. Hopefully you'll get that coy turning away of the face but keeping eye contact - if so, you're in. She might look you up and down if she's being really helpful. Usually she'll turn away and then immediately look back - if she has a scared look in her eyes then you're getting the starey, smiley, rapey thing wrong.
Once you've made the eye contact look out for body language. If she's talking to friends but standing with her foot or her drink pointed towards you, that's an invite. You may find that when she walks past to the ladies/bar she'll look at the floor briefly before looking up at you - all women know they look better from that angle, it's why they hold their cameras up when taking photos - that's a good thing. Most things you read about body language are bullsh1t, but these are always true.
Be a gent, like in a really old-school way. Don't worry about seeming old-fashioned - open doors for her, insist on paying, be decisive about choices, etc.
As Southstand said above, the most useful thing is confidence. Be really confident (almost bordering on arrogance) and your game will improve tenfold. Walk into a busy bar held held high and full of confidence and women will notice you immediately, be certain and decisive in everything you do. Dress well - traditionally but with a small amount of flair (enough to get noticed, less than novelty). You can never over-dress for anything, always wear a jacket when picking up, if you're in a decent bar wear a casual suit.
And lay off the weed. There is almost no situation ever in which weed is conducive to attracting women.
I'm known some pretty hot stoners.' Come back to mine and we'll light up' works well with them.
But that is a good post.
No, everyone wants to be with a member of the opposite sex that is both attractive physically and intelligent. 'survival of the fittest' and all thatYup, all the more reason for me to move to Colorado.
Thanks for the tips everyone. Does it make me shallow for wanting a hot girl who's also insanely intelligent? These girls tend to get locked down pretty quickly, but I still have hope!
There are 3 ways to pull extremely attractive women:
1) Confidence
2) Cash
3) Comedy
In no particular order, but I would say confidence is the key
No, everyone wants to be with a member of the opposite sex that is both attractive physically and intelligent. 'survival of the fittest' and all that
My two cents (bar snakes and cat popcorn gifs) would be to make sure that you're not a boring person. Always be doing new things and going new places and just see what happens from there, you're not going to meet some amazing intelligent woman whilst on Randomination (no offence to the female posters). I think in terms of batting way above your average, I think these beautiful women you see with ugly guys are possibly escorts, or on a less sinister thought, possibly are just really interesting people.
I don't want to sound judgmental either but I bet the people that are really fudging boss at it are the ones who haven't looked at a youtube video, imo it's one of those if you have to ask you'll never know kind of things. And lets say it does work and you get a stunner, in the back of your mind if you know that it's through some bricky youtube vid guy called "Brad" then it won't feel like you've earned it yourself. As someone said before, you might be over thinking it. Just be get your brick done and being generally outgoing in terms of what you do and from there it's just luck, a number of coincidences and variables that are so vast that you're head would explode if you were to fully comprehend it, so a four minute youtube video is hardly going to explain it, just ride with it in my very honest opinion.
Or just get a high class prostitute and just pretend that you're not paying her \o/
No doubt some people have natural talent. I don't, so I need to hone my game. And many of these guys with the videos started off in the same boat I'm in. They put in the hard work of making a fool of themselves girl after girl. I need to do the same to get more practice.
That's too much work, just gonna go with the prostitute.