This is the thing, the nuance of that we just don't know.
In the alps this summer...we did the clip and climb and crazy Zipline thing...the Mrs is not really up for anything a bit scary or dangerous (she has the fear
)...but the daughter and I cajoled and convinced her to do it 'itll be fun' etc etc...i suppose we coerced her into it? But it's a comfort zone thing, similar to thinking I don't think I'm good enough, or this is beyond my ability/pay grade.
Ended up being one of the best things she'd ever done. Big smiles all round.
It could just be that.
Another angle is people sometimes get a bit miffed when they have pushed the boat out to get something organized (especially if it has taken a bit of legwork) and then they don't get the response THEY were expecting. Then start getting a bit moody and try and guilt trip you. Which is, of course, bad behavior in itself